Notes To My Younger Self:
You are inherently curious and love to learn. You have questions, endless streams of queries burning to be answered. Because of these tendencies, you’ll have a deep longing to connect. Connect to your higher power, the critters, nature, the planet and very importantly, to other two-leggers. Your curiosity will drive you to want to know others. Know their stories, listen to their triumphs and struggles and understand their hearts. In turn, you will want them to know you in the same manner. Although this is how you’re wired, you need to realize that many others have different agendas during their earth minutes. And regardless of how hard you try to get to know them, how much you extend yourself, do for them, show them the true fabric of your heart, they will choose not to let you in. You will save yourself a lot of heartache if you accept their boundary and cease trying to connect. I realize this may be hard for you to understand.
Think of it like this. What if you went to the grocery store. The one in your neighborhood, the store you like, the one stocked with what you believe is everything you need on your list. But when you arrive at the store, it’s closed. When you peak in the window, the lights are on, you can see other shoppers moving around, smiling, collecting sustenance. You’ll think the door must be malfunctioning, since others got in. So you try the door again, and when that doesn’t work, you’ll knock on the windows. Nothing happens. Being the resourceful being you are, you’ll grab your cell and dial the store’s customer service number; voicemail. You’ll double your efforts, after all you really want to shop at this store, it has what you think you need to be filled up. So you’ll wait. Wait until someone else comes to the door wanting to get in. And even though you’re patient for a very long time, no new cars pull into the parking lot. More time passes and you grow weary from waiting. You will try the door one last time and when it remains sealed shut, you will turn around—confused, hungry, tired— and go back to your car empty-handed, disheartened and depleted.
When this happens, waste no time wondering what happened. How others got in. Why despite all your efforts, the store was open for them and not for you. Instead, get into your car and drive to a different store.
E.L. Chappel author of Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming very soon: The Surge
The door is closed for a reason. Go find one that’s open.
They’re out there, in numbers.
aka The Glamorous Wife
p.s. This post was inspired by a conversation with Dr. Robert Kaufman.