Notes To My Younger Self:
Notes To My Younger Self:
I could tell you war stories about the challenges you will face. The unfair treatment, the hurts, the exclusion, but what would that serve except reliving past pain and possibly triggering the victim in you? Instead, I believe you will benefit more from understanding what good will come of all these challenging experiences. Unrelenting criticism will push you to respect standards and understand the exact nature of your capabilities and shortcomings; making you more proficient. Exclusion will free up time required to do the work necessary to meet the standard and build strong work ethics. Backhanded dynamics will bring opportunity for you to be flexible and think out of the box. Approach attempts to undermine less as personal attacks and more of an opportunities to take regular inventory of yourself, forcing awareness and therefore, improve. Use ridicule and judgement as chances to become a stronger communicator by finding words that speak your truth. It is in isolation, where you will find your voice. Process hurt feelings and then let go by searching for the lesson of growth within them—they are for you, not against you. Accept that everything that comes your way is necessary and take it in stride. These trials, if you embrace them, will prepare you for where you are destined to go.
No doubt it will be hard, lonely, isolating, scary, shocking and exhausting at times. But if you find the lessons, let go of the hurt and keep going, you’re sure to be rewarded with favor beyond your wildest dreams.
You may never develop a love for tough circumstances. It’s very difficult to love something that doesn’t want you and has no capacity to love you back. But you can develop respect for them. Perhaps in the way you respect a demanding teacher, a coach who pushes you to be more, or a parent who sets and holds boundaries. Since in the end, it’s not about people, hurts, wrongs, luck, upbringing, resources, planes, uniforms, being in the club or being excluded. It’s about developing what we need to embrace our destiny. The full life and inspiring life I believe you’re (many are) in search of.
“Today I will move forward with my life, despite what others are doing or not doing. I will know its right to cross the bridge to a better life. Even if I must leave others behind to do that, I will not feel guilty, I will not feel ashamed (or afraid.) I know that where I am now (or the spot I’m headed) is a better place and where I’m meant to be.”~Melody Beattie
E.L. Chappel author of Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming very soon: The Surge
There’s nothing anyone can say or do to stop your destiny. You have the power to let go and move ahead.
aka The Glamorous Wife