Notes To My Younger Self:
You will struggle in relationships with people who make commitments and then don’t follow through. Understand that you were raised with the belief that when you say you’re going to do something, you do it, no matter what. Even if challenges come up, even if you aren’t feeling 100%, even if an opportunity to do something more fun comes along. Since to you, saying you’re going to do something to another is giving your word. You believe your word is sacred; if you don’t uphold your word, well, then what do you stand for? As you journey through your life adventure, you will discover that others do not have the same belief around their “words.” This fact, will frustrate you and in extreme cases—people who’s actions repeatedly don’t match their words—you might even become angry and resentful. Knowing how destructive anger and resentment are for your mind, body and spirit you need accept this simple, not easy, fact: The only person you can control, change, influence is you. So when you’re tempted to take inventory on others for what they’ve said they were going to do and haven’t, leaving you feeling frustrated, angry, resentful, remind yourself that those emotions that you’re feeling are a result of you expecting others to have the same belief about giving their “word” as you do. They aren’t doing anything to you, you are choosing to let yourself be affected by their behavior.
E.L. Chappel author of Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming very soon: The Surge
Choose to surround yourself with people who share your beliefs. Others that elevate, nurture and nourish your heart and soul. Resist the urge to surround yourself with people you have to convince, explain, strong arm, badger, remind in order to honor commitments.
aka The Glamorous Wife
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