Notes To My Younger Self:
Notes To My Younger Self:
Patterns that aren’t representative of your authentic self: You may or may not have participated in some of these patterns, but know if you have, these thoughts, acts and words do not stem from your authentic self. They come from unhealed wounds.
~Gaslighting others— feeling afraid or insecure triggers gaslighting in an attempt to maintain perceived power. (Holding power over another is an illusion. It’s rooted in fear and manipulation, neither of which stem from love. It’s either fear or love. Both can’t exist at the same time.)
~Blaming others instead of looking inside for the source of why you’re being triggered. Blaming is a distraction and blocks opportunities to gain awareness of unhealed wounds.
~Judging others. Understand judging is your ego-mind’s idea of protecting you by distracting you from looking at an unhealed wound you’re carrying inside.
~Unloading or blowing up at another (on the road or otherwise) is likely rooted in bottled up emotion that your physical body can no longer manage inside and must release in order to get some relief.
~Aligning with energy that doesn’t resonate with you in order to connect, fit in or be picked.
~Disrespect of others and things. Understand the act of disrespecting is rooted in anger. At the base of anger is fear.
~Holding expectations of others that they haven’t agreed to. Expecting others to take care of, to do, to self-sacrifice, to align with or to take on your beliefs or responsibilities, is asking them to assume matters they have no authority over. You can’t have responsibility, if you have no authority.
~Expecting others be other than their authentic selves is asking them to give away their power—their birthright.
~Pushing in front of another in line or otherwise, is not being a go-getter. It’s striving. Striving steals peace, joy and trust that everything goes exactly as it’s suppose to. (All integral to walking in authenticity.)
~Thinking, speaking or acting like a victim. (Feeling sorry for…) Victimhood, whether for yourself or others—holds you and others in place, keeping you stuck in your wounds. You can’t become aware, heal, forgive, release and move forward into freedom if you consider or treat yourself, or another, as a victim.
~Withholding forgiveness of yourself or others is the opposite of walking in authenticity. It’s likely rooted in fear. Fear that if I open myself up and be vulnerable, whatever happened to trigger the unforgiveness, might happen again. (Know withholding forgiveness is giving away our power to those we choose not to forgive.)
E.L. Chappel author of Spirit Dance and Storm Makers
Your authentic self isn’t how you appear on the outside. It comes from the inside. Your spirit.
aka A woman getting clear on her highest purpose and highest timeline.