When others complain about being in pain, being tired, being frustrated—suffering in some manner—be open to offering advice and, at times, even helping. But as you are offering suggestions that might ease their discomfort, remember that your brainstorming, your words, ideas, action plans, may not be heard. Complaints are complicated. Multi-layered like onions. And sometimes…

There are pros and cons to everything. When you find yourself getting irritated or frustrated or about to start to complain about someone, something, some circumstance, stop, and start a pro/con list; Grab a sheet of paper, type a note on your phone or if you have no means of writing at that moment, make…

You are worthy, you are enough exactly the way you are. E.L. Chappel author of Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming very soon: The Surge Let go, breathe and believe. (Tea leaf wisdom.) aka The Glamorous Wife  

In your life you will come across people who will run towards you and people who will run away from you. Ones who will include you, and others who will go to great lengths to exclude you from the pack. Although the ones running away, pushing you away, may peak your curiosity, let them go;…

You will be treated unfairly; No matter how hard you try, no matter how much you genuinely extend yourself, no matter how sincere your intentions. Try to remember that fair isn’t the goal—life isn’t about the illusion of control. Life isn’t a game about winning, losing, or who appears on top in a given moment…

“It’s only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis.” Margaret Bonnano E.L Chappel author of Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming Very Soon: The Surge Be in the moment aka The Glamorous Wife

“You must dare to show up and let yourself be seen.” Brene Brown, Daring Greatly E.L. Chappel author Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming very soon: The Surge Have the courage to be vulnerable. aka The Glamorous Wife

“Judge not your beauty by the number of people that look at you, but by the number of people who smile at you.” ~African proverb E.L. Chappel author of Spirit Dance/Storm Makers/Coming very soon: The Surge It’s not outer shell that matters, it’s the inner connection. aka The Glamorous Wife

When feeling at odds with someone, do your best to see situations from 41000′. Remove yourself—including your emotions— step back, and ask “what does this person want?” If you don’t know what they want, ask them. Be curious and try to understand the emotion behind their words. Chances are you’ll discover that what feels personal,…